bell hooks in Communion: Female Search for Love (via nepantlera-en-la-frontera)
True shit. We’re taught that if someone doesn’t love us, then we didn’t work hard enough or try hard enough, or we simply weren’t good enough. That kind of psychotic mindset impacts so many young women.
I think the most twisted form of this is, “You have to love yourself first!” I hate that one. It’s used to make absolutely everything our fault. “Men keep abusing me.” Well, if you don’t love yourself first that’s the type of guy you’ll attract! “No one will love me because I’m Black.” Well, if you love yourself first, you can magically not be aware of racism!